BARRY SAYINGS - Based on a true story :)

  A few months ago, I went out with my friends for lunch at a beautiful seaside restaurant along the East Coast Road. The view was stunning—people playing on the beach, fishermen guiding their boats, friends laughing as they braved the waves, couples deep in conversation, children flying kites, and athletes practicing surfing against the rhythmic crash of the tides. It was one of those moments that felt picture-perfect.   As I soaked it all in, I realized my phone battery had died. At first, I thought it might be inconvenient, but soon, I discovered something refreshing: I was completely immersed in the moment, undistracted. There were no notifications dragging me out of the conversations with my friends, no impulses to capture the view for Instagram stories, no dopamine hits from new messages or social media updates. Just pure, unfiltered presence. It was calm, pleasant, and deeply soul-satisfying.   But then, reality hit. As soon as I got home, I plugged in my pho...

 Do you have the pressure or feelings of nervousness on what's going to happen next ? how your exams are gonna be, how your upcoming presentations , job interviews , dinner date or even your upcoming trip with your friends going to be like? is it gonna be a positive or a negative experience? do these thoughts make you worry and overstimulated to the point where you start living in your own world rather than being in the present. Sounds relatable? This is known as, Anticipatory anxiety is a type of anxiety that occurs when a person is anticipating for the upcoming future events, it basically makes a person worry upon the upcoming future events since the thought process will be mostly negative which causes stress and the person loses his/her peacefulness in the present and will have a disturbed mindset which makes them to feel restless . Let me give you a relatable example , Your favorite stars movie is going to be released  next week , you being a fan who loves when you see yo...

You wake up on a Friday morning, and the first thing that pops into your mind is that you have a family function to attend in your native place the next day. The thought of a week-long break from college or office is like a breath of fresh air. You can't help but feel energized, happy, and cool knowing that you'll have ample time to relax and enjoy with your loved ones. It's like a mini-vacation from the daily grind. But, let's flip the script. Imagine waking up to the harsh reality that you have an upcoming presentation or exam week ahead. The thought of sacrificing your weekend fun to prepare for it is like a punch to the gut. You'll be anxious, irritated, and worried about your performance. It's like being stuck in a never-ending cycle of stress and anxiety. These mood swings can be a real emotional rollercoaster, affecting our ability to be present and focus on our work. It's a common phenomenon known as procrastination, where we put off our ...

Overthinking is when a person always thinks of either what has happened in the past or what could happen in the future. Eventually, they become totally ignorant or absent from the present moment. Statistics say that we all have a certain amount of overthinking in us, especially young adults between the ages of 18 to 27. The reason is that we are subjected to a lot of social, academic and career-related pressures, especially in life's transition phases. Why is this happening? Why do we all of a sudden zone out from situations and slip into a depressed or loner state where we feel that the world is against us? The reason is that our mind is confused, often in a dilemma, a mindset filled with negative thoughts, where we feel doubtful about the choices that we make. We compare ourselves with our peer group, we look at all that we do not have and totally forget to count our strengths and blessings.   So what can be done to recover from this overthinking state?  Here are a few...

 Self-help is one of the most googled words for the past 10 years, people have been trying to change their ways of thinking, their habits, their efforts, and peer group to transform and succeed in their lives in order to go to the next level in both personal and professional lives by searching and reading different self-help books available on the market. Here is a list of the top 5 self-help books which can help you to achieve your interpersonal goals in life:- 1.  The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by MARK MANSON (2016) This book is mainly for those who face a lot of criticism, feel insecure about how other people think about them and feel left out by their own friends, family, or colleagues as this is based on a real-life counterintuitive approach that focuses on what you can practically do with what you have, the narration in this book makes you feel as if you are talking to an experienced friend who has seen all aspects of life, the author throws the reality on our face ...

  It's night 9pm you make a WhatsApp group call with your besties and suddenly due to boredom and monotonous work or college life, you suddenly plan a holiday trip! where does your mind go? as soon as you close your eyes and think of someplace as a bachelor, as a single who is ready to mingle, as a committed guy who needs a break from his girlfriend your mind takes you to a peaceful beachside place with pubs, music, culturally shocking people who have no limits, no office calls, no assignments, and only colorful entertainment to always make you feel high... GOA!!!!! To be frank what comes as a dream always stays as a dream when it comes to a trip to GOA, right? 😂😆😅 I too am a victim of a canceled GOA trip 😅 My friends and I started to plan every year in the month of September for a memorable new year trip to Goa where we discuss for days and months together how we're gonna travel, where we are gonna stay, things to see there, dress to buy for the trip, Instagram story and ...