BARRY SAYINGS - Based on a true story :)

 A few years back I started playing cricket again after a bike accident, I gained a lot of weight, my body lost the reflexes that I used to have and on top of that, I felt like shit when I looked in the mirror.... I was always worrying about how I gonna overcome this, what if this happens ??? what if that happens ?? and things like that.... I used to feel awful every day... I started hating everything about my life... but anyways I went to the nets sessions, I used to feel low because even the junior players used to comment on how bad my physique was or my struggling game was, when I went to bat in matches I was sledged a lot by the opponents with words one cant imagine and their reactions really pissed me off ..... then I got really frustrated and decided that I needed to take a break for a week and went window shopping alone to the nearby mall to find some inspiration... to my surprise I saw few books on stoicism which talks about having the ability to endure pain or hardship wit...

  Are We Living for Ourselves or for Others? Have you ever noticed that no matter what you do......wearing your favourite colour shirt or capturing a picture of nature.......someone always has a comment to make?  It happens everywhere at school, college, the gym, and the workplace. And, of course, our relatives and neighbours are often the first to judge. People are naturally judgmental. It’s part of human nature. Because of this, many of us work hard to present ourselves in a way that gains social approval. We buy things not just for personal happiness but to shape the way others perceive us. But is this really necessary? Does loving someone solely for their social status bring real happiness? Is it worth paying EMIs for cars, bikes, or properties just to receive validation from others? Are we truly living the life we want, or are we just trying to fit into an image society has created for us? Instead, we should focus on what genuinely brings us joy. We must love people ...

In this digital era, we are habituated these days to get things fast due to the smartphones in our hands, we want food we swiggy it, we want snacks we zepto it, we want a bag we buy it on Amazon, we want to clean our homes we book via urban clap, we want bus tickets we book on red bus and the list goes on. Thanks to the power of technology we can get these things or services within a few minutes, but that doesn't mean that the nature of human beings has changed or is it???? We human beings need to build ourselves step by step right from our knowledge, skills, career, body and of course our relationships, this reminds us all that    “Rome wasn't built in a day”.  We are part of nature and nature has something called a process and it can't be rushed how hard you try,  Let us look at this through a  kutty story...... Mr.DAS was a sincere man who was consistent with his work, he used to wake up early in the morning do his meditation, brush his teeth, read t...

  A few months ago, I went out with my friends for lunch at a beautiful seaside restaurant along the East Coast Road. The view was stunning—people playing on the beach, fishermen guiding their boats, friends laughing as they braved the waves, couples deep in conversation, children flying kites, and athletes practicing surfing against the rhythmic crash of the tides. It was one of those moments that felt picture-perfect.   As I soaked it all in, I realized my phone battery had died. At first, I thought it might be inconvenient, but soon, I discovered something refreshing: I was completely immersed in the moment, undistracted. There were no notifications dragging me out of the conversations with my friends, no impulses to capture the view for Instagram stories, no dopamine hits from new messages or social media updates. Just pure, unfiltered presence. It was calm, pleasant, and deeply soul-satisfying.   But then, reality hit. As soon as I got home, I plugged in my pho...

 Do you have the pressure or feelings of nervousness on what's going to happen next ? how your exams are gonna be, how your upcoming presentations , job interviews , dinner date or even your upcoming trip with your friends going to be like? is it gonna be a positive or a negative experience? do these thoughts make you worry and overstimulated to the point where you start living in your own world rather than being in the present. Sounds relatable? This is known as, Anticipatory anxiety is a type of anxiety that occurs when a person is anticipating for the upcoming future events, it basically makes a person worry upon the upcoming future events since the thought process will be mostly negative which causes stress and the person loses his/her peacefulness in the present and will have a disturbed mindset which makes them to feel restless . Let me give you a relatable example , Your favorite stars movie is going to be released  next week , you being a fan who loves when you see yo...

You wake up on a Friday morning, and the first thing that pops into your mind is that you have a family function to attend in your native place the next day. The thought of a week-long break from college or office is like a breath of fresh air. You can't help but feel energized, happy, and cool knowing that you'll have ample time to relax and enjoy with your loved ones. It's like a mini-vacation from the daily grind. But, let's flip the script. Imagine waking up to the harsh reality that you have an upcoming presentation or exam week ahead. The thought of sacrificing your weekend fun to prepare for it is like a punch to the gut. You'll be anxious, irritated, and worried about your performance. It's like being stuck in a never-ending cycle of stress and anxiety. These mood swings can be a real emotional rollercoaster, affecting our ability to be present and focus on our work. It's a common phenomenon known as procrastination, where we put off our ...

Overthinking is when a person always thinks of either what has happened in the past or what could happen in the future. Eventually, they become totally ignorant or absent from the present moment. Statistics say that we all have a certain amount of overthinking in us, especially young adults between the ages of 18 to 27. The reason is that we are subjected to a lot of social, academic and career-related pressures, especially in life's transition phases. Why is this happening? Why do we all of a sudden zone out from situations and slip into a depressed or loner state where we feel that the world is against us? The reason is that our mind is confused, often in a dilemma, a mindset filled with negative thoughts, where we feel doubtful about the choices that we make. We compare ourselves with our peer group, we look at all that we do not have and totally forget to count our strengths and blessings.   So what can be done to recover from this overthinking state?  Here are a few...